‘So what…it’s over?!’
‘And you’re not dating him anymore?!’
‘I’m confused – I thought you really liked this guy?!’
I heard this at least ten times over the past 72 hours.
You know why I think breaking up is so much better in your thirties than it is in your early twenties?
You know yourself more.
You know what you want and what you definitely don’t want.
You also know you don’t need anyone else to complete you…
…because you finally like who you are.
And it gets better!
With the right mindset, you’re actually able to look back and ask yourself:
‘Right, so what did I learn through this experience?’
And all of a sudden plenty of things come up…
And then you become grateful.
Grateful for the unsuccessful dating story?!
But it’s true.
See, I really genuinely didn’t think it was possible for me to feel like this again.
To be THIS excited that you just can’t stop smiling.
And then it happened.
And for this – I’m just so incredibly grateful.
I am also grateful for all the internal work I’ve done across the years.
Because I wouldn’t have been able to pick myself up so quickly, if I didn’t spend so much time on self-care and exploring who I am…
Just so I could admit that I do, in fact, deserve better.
And even though this chapter is over…
I now know all those real smiles CAN happen.
Which makes me look forward to what my thirties will bring even more!
And you – what was the one thing you learned from your last break up?